S2 E8 - Why Do I Take Failure So Personally?
Why Do I Take Failure So Personally? - and how to Stop Letting Failure Define You.
This episode is for you if:
Failure leaves you feeling ashamed or stuck in a cycle of self-blame. You might take setbacks as proof that you’re not good enough, find your brain constantly replaying what went wrong, or feel too afraid to try again in case it happens all over again. Maybe you’ve even started wondering if you’re just not cut out for what you’re trying to do.
What we cover:
🔹 Why failure hits so hard We unpack how your brain links failure with danger, judgement and rejection. It’s not just a mindset — it’s your wiring.
🔹 How self-worth gets tangled up in performance When failure feels personal, we show you how to separate what happened from who you are.
🔹 What makes failure feel worse when you’re abroad New place, new you, high pressure. We explore why failing overseas can trigger identity wobbles — and what helps.
🔹 The role of the inner critic Learn how to spot the harsh inner voice that wants to protect you — and how to gently replace it with something more helpful.
🔹 What failure really means We shift the lens from “you messed up” to “you’re learning” — and share real stories of failing forward.
🔹 Coaching tools to reframe failure From journalling prompts to mini mindset shifts, we give you ways to move through failure without letting it define you.
Questions to ask yourself this week:
What failure are you still carrying, and what are you making it mean?
What would you say to a friend in the same situation?
What has failure actually taught you, about yourself, your values, or your direction?